— Creating a custom website with funny photos and tales of your courtship.
— Throwing a costume karaoke party for out-of-towners the night before the wedding.
— Getting married on a 115-foot yacht at sunset.
— Writing personalized vows with inside jokes and tear-inducing declarations of love.
— Doing a choreographed salsa dance to the tune of “The Lovecats” by the Cure.
— Skipping a tiered wedding cake in favor of four different ice cream cakes.
— Asking guests to contribute to a honeymoon fund instead of registering at Macy’s.
Oh, wait, that was my wedding. And it was awesome. I mean, isn’t the point of the wedding to be a unique expression of the couple’s personality, celebrated by the friends and family they love the most?
So while I can understand the exasperation caused by people who put all their photos on Instagram and create clever hashtags on Twitter…
And I can appreciate how some feel a the loss of tradition when a traditional clergyman is forgone for a friend who just became a minister of the Universal Life Church …
And I can happily survive the rest of my life without flying to Costa Rica and putting on a lei and a mustache in some rented photo booth on the beach…
I only hope to attend more weddings that feel customized instead of cookie-cutter.
But I’d be sure to tell the bride and groom one thing before they start planning: skip the bags of candy and picture frames for all the guests
We just end up throwing them out when we get home.
Source: Evan Marc Katz is a dating coach for women and author of four books on relationships.