You are probably wondering why a Catholic priest and a interfaith wedding official would post about reasons not to get married. Well, the wrong reason will never be the right foundation for a lasting marriage.
When two people are deeply in love, marriage seems like the obvious answer. But let’s not kid ourselves, people marry for reasons other than love every day.
If you’re ready to march down the aisle and find yourself wondering what’s love got to do with it, return the bridal shower gifts and reconsider. Seriously, no china pattern is worth a lifetime of unhappiness.
Check out these 12 reasons you probably ought to call off the wedding – after the jump!
1. To help a friend in need:
Need I remind you that entering into marriage fraud for immigration purposes is a federal crime? It’s just not worth it.
2. You’re pregnant:
Finding out you’re pregnant is scary. Finding out you’re pregnant while single is even scarier. Rushing into a marriage before you’re ready almost never had a happy ending. Adjust to your new role as mommy before taking on the added responsibility of marriage.
3. You want your child to have two parents:
It’s natural for single parents to want to provide their child a loving two-parent family, but you’re enough until the right partner comes along
4. You’ve been together for so long:
You’re dating a guy and it’s going OK. He loves you and everything so that’s good. Should you settle and marry the guy? All signs point to no if you’re heart isn’t in it.
5. To get out of debt:
You’re drowning in debt and see no way out. Before you marry a man with stacks of fat cash, understand that you can’t put a price on personal happiness.
6. To get out of your parent’s house:
Marriage isn’t a Get Out of Jail Free card. If you can’t stand living at home with parental, find some roomies and get out.
7. You’re supposed to:
Every young girl is raised with the notion that she’s supposed to get married. Screw that! You’re a grown woman, do what you want to do.
8. To help your career:
Marriage is desirable in certain careers. Before you rush to off to Vegas, consider how divorce may impact that same career.
9. Everybody’s doing it:
So everyone you ever met is now married and you’re left “singled” out. Resist the peer pressure and go your own way. Love will find you when the timing is right.
10. To have a dream wedding:
The appeal of grand wedding is undeniable but what’s it worth without a lifetime of love ahead? Just ask Kim Kardashian.
11. To have a baby:
Yes, conventional wisdom tells us, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage,” but maybe you’re not a conventional kinda gal!
12. To prove you’re straight:
Whether you’re trying to prove your sexual orientation to yourself or others, marriage isn’t the answer.